Never Beg for Someone’s Love

Of course, it goes without saying that you should never have to beg for someone’s love, attention or interest. If someone is meant to be in your life then you won’t ever have to convince or plead with them to stay.

When you put yourself in a position where you begin to beg for a person’s love, you are basically setting yourself up to be with someone who can’t love you the way you deserve and someone who won’t prioritize you because they don’t truly value you. You will have to constantly keep fighting for their attention and time and soon enough you will begin to feel completely overwhelmed and exhausted.

Don’t let your fear of losing them make you hold onto someone who isn’t good for you.

Maybe you have a fear of losing this person because of all the history between the both of you. Maybe it’s because you feel so comfortable and familiar with them that you convince yourself the lie of “I’ll never find someone who ‘gets me’ like they do.”

^{Side Note: Just because you have several years of history with someone doesn’t mean that person is meant to be in your life. You can meet someone tomorrow that will have better intentions and love you more than someone you’ve known your entire life. Don’t let time fool you.}

Whatever the reason, if we choose to pursue someone who makes us beg for their time, love and affection, then we are basically telling God that we don’t trust Him. What we’re saying is, “Lord I don’t trust that you will send me a person who will give me these things because they truly love me, so I’m going to take matters into my own hands instead and try to fight to feel loved by someone.” As you can imagine, this will always end up leaving us more hurt and empty in the long run.

Remember: God doesn’t want you to just have any man or any woman, He wants you to be with someone that is truly the best fit for you and your purpose – but begging for someone’s love is a surefire way to settle for something that God never intended for you to have, something that will only cause you more damage.

Don’t try to force it.

You can’t force someone to be consistent. You can’t force someone to be loyal and commit. You can’t force someone to make an effort. And you certainly can’t force someone to love you.

You might be reading this thinking, “okay Jess, well I’m not begging anyone to be in relationship with me,” but while you may not be begging someone with your words, your actions speak louder. By continuing to invest and pour your energy and effort into a relationship where the other person is treating you as someone who is just always going to be there to entertain them when they feel lonely and bored – you’re doing just that!

Ignoring the Red Flags

This type of behavior will have you ignoring all the red flags. You will eventually become so used to toxic, so used to having to beg to be appreciated, beg to be heard and beg to be loved that you learn to function in dysfunction. Then, what happens is that when you do actually see something that’s functional and healthy you will start to call that dysfunction.

Do not allow yourself to get to that point. Perhaps you need to take a step back to evaluate your relationships and ask yourself: Am I begging for this person to be in my life?

The truth is, when you choose to pour your time and energy into someone that doesn’t value you, you will miss out on what God has prepared for you. Do not let what God has planned for you slip you by because you’re striving to earn the attention and affection from someone who was never even meant to have more than a page in your life story. You’re giving them several chapters when they were only meant to be a paragraph.

Learn to let go of what isn’t best for you and show God that you will trust Him with your future. Letting go is never easy, but the longer you hold on to something that isn’t meant for you the more painful it will be later on. God has a plan for your life, but it will never involve you having to beg.